Keeping Love Alive

5 Things You Need To Live Happily Ever After

When you love someone, really love someone, you never want to let them go. Until eventually it leads to, “I Do!” Then those two words change everything! Suddenly two people are one couple. And they live happily ever after.

WAKE UP! The real work is just beginning. And I am not talking about careers, or kids, or housework! After that honeymoon phase, keeping love alive in a marriage is only the beginning!

1. Anticipation

♥ ♥  Do You Feel It?

What is it about your relationship that is so exciting and so intoxicating that you simple can not wait to see each other again? Everything you do and everything that happens to you is memorized, you just can’t wait to tell the other… to see their reactions.. to hear their thoughts… to feel their touch… you want everything! It is an obsession. No, it is anticipation.

One of the best ways to keep anticipation active in your relationship is to start off every day with some conversation. It doesn’t have to be long, it doesn’t have to be involved, but you need to keep your conversations on-going. When you clue each other in about what you are up to during the day and when you might be home and what are we doing about dinner tonight, you are building anticipation until you are together again. Whisper in their ear. Tell each other secrets. Keep in touch and keep making plans.

Speaking of making plans… build up anticipation by making plans for your annual vacation or that weekend getaway. Don’t just talk about it, start planning it!

2. Acceptance

♥ ♥ ♥  Do You Show It?

Do you know what your partner needs? Can you give them time and space if they need to be alone? Do you allow them to talk about their fears even if they are unfounded? Can you give them extra hugs when they are having a rough time?

Sometimes it is as simple as listening. Listen when they are telling you about their long day, don’t be thinking about your busy day. Be in the moment. Share your time wisely and be open to accept and embrace your differences as well as the similarities. Treat each other with respect and don’t belittle your partner when they tell you about their needs.

3. Attention

♥ ♥ ♥  Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Remember when your relationship was brand new and you gave each other little notes or gifts for no reason? Keep doing that! And don’t stop there! Don’t let your relationship become predictable. Unexpectedly helping with household chores is always welcome.

Surprise them! Bring them a drink or snack when they are busy as you would like them to do for you. Showing your desire to do something kind for your partner, and that you are thinking about them, makes them feel loved. And then they want to do something for you. Romance happens all day long.

Pay attention and take action. Fix things for your spouse that are causing them grief. Pick up things that are left out or in the way. Run an errand for them when you are running your errands. Couples who routinely do things for each other – and don’t keep track – are caring for each other with a loving heart and building a foundation to last a lifetime.

 4. Appreciation

♥ ♥  Words Are Important, Too

“Honey, I love you!”  Speak words of praise often. Encourage and motivate and inspire with your words. Talk about your hopes and dreams for yourselves and for each other, for your family, for your future. And remember, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”

Communication is the #1 most important thing between two people. Marriages don’t fail over money or sex, contrary to popular belief. Marriages fail because communication fails.

The discussion leads no where when you stop talking about money or sex and you start arguing about money or sex. You have to be ready to talk things through and listen, be appreciative that your lover is willing to open up and speak to you.

Don’t be lazy. Say “please” and “thank you.” We all need to hear kind words and feel appreciated, especially in our own homes. Make eye contact and keep that connection flowing when you are communicating. Don’t assume they feel your love because you are present. Don’t assume they see your love by the things you do. Let them hear it, too. Tell them how much you love them. Say “I love you” often.

5. Affection

♥ ♥   All Work & Some Play

We are human beings. We are spiritual beings. We are sexual beings. As a married couple you are intertwined emotionally, mentally and physically. It starts at the beginning of every day. Each moment is your chance to enjoy, excite, and explore your lover… Seducing each other with just that twinkle in your eye! 

Don’t only think about what you want from your spouse at the end of the day, and don’t think about what they want from you.

Think about what you both want from each other. Imagine yourselves together, being together, loving one another.

The touches, the hugs and the kisses throughout the day are all a part of keeping love exciting. Stay involved in your relationship every day.

Come together with ANTICIPATION and ACCEPTANCE…  Shower each other with overflowing ATTENTION and APPRECIATION…  These are the things you need to fuel your desires and create AFFECTION for each other that is everlasting… Keeping Love Alive Forever!

And Smile! You Got This!

Remind yourself about these 5 Things You Need To Live Happily Ever After
 for easy reference!

P.S. I welcome your comments, please post below.

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6 thoughts on “Keeping Love Alive

  • May 10, 2017 at 5:29 am

    Great page! I really enjoyed reading through this! There is so much doom and gloom on the internet these days, it’s nice to see that people still promote good old fashioned, do anything for each other, love!

    It is so easy to get wrapped up in day to day life and forget about all the little things that matter most! This was a great reminder.
    Thank you!

    • May 11, 2017 at 5:14 pm

      Thank you Josh! 🙂 It is easy to get sidetracked with work and kids and other obligations that we start letting important things slide… like love! And isn’t that we are all searching for at the end of the day?

      Morning meditation is the trick to keep our focus on what we desire so even if the day does bring you lots of changes and challenges, you can still get back to your own life’s path and truly let your love shine!

  • May 15, 2017 at 4:28 am

    Hi Darla,

    I think you know a thing or two about this love stuff 🙂

    Your tips are really good and as a man, we’re sometimes bad about point #3. We forget to keep things fresh by surprising our gf’s and can get into the routine habit. But you’re right on. It takes effort and those small considerate things add up and make a positive difference. I’ve just had my longest relationship for over a year and a half and all your points really ring true for me.

    Great post and I really enjoy reading your site.

    • May 17, 2017 at 12:43 am

      Thank you Todd! 🙂 It’s great to hear from a man’s perspective. It really comes down to love others as you want them to love you!
      So glad you stopped by,

  • May 29, 2017 at 4:23 am

    Thanks for reminding me again how to keep the spark in the relationship going! At least, it reminded me how to keep my relationship fresh and exciting everyday as well. This is one page I do want to bookmark.

    • May 30, 2017 at 9:15 pm

      Thanks for reading Terence 🙂 I’m so happy you enjoyed my article. Do bookmark it – and share it, too!


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